Category Archives: my thoughts/poems

When life does not make sense

This week has been kind of hard for me.  Love can be hard sometimes, especially when you think about what if I love someone more than they love me.  And this week I’ve try not to think like that but sometimes people don’t need to show it,  you just know that what you are doing for them really helps them.  Someone who is very important to me has been going through so much lately and I have been messaging this person.  Just to be there for them, I want them to know how much I love them and I have been loving doing it daily, but sometimes I get selfish and I wish that I could get more time with them and wanting them to be at my events when it doesn’t happen I feel hurt by this person not coming.   I have forgotten how much just being able to show so much how much they are loved can mean so much that they I will ever know.   Knowing that I may be helping them with love makes me happy.  Because really loving and supporting someone who is going through a lot is the best way to show the person that I am beside them through this season.   I have to remember that I can be there without seeing them and that is what I want.

”Where there is love there is life.”  Life could not be full without love,  just think about it what do you have if love is not in your life.   You could have everything that money can get but if you are lonely you can never be truly happy!   Love is like a light shining through all of us.

 

The next three days

Hey everyone,  I just wanted to let you know,  for the next few days I’m not going to be posting because I have to use a special keyboard to write but my room is getting new flooring and I won’t be able to use it.   I will try to post on facebook.

A life of love is?

We all have been at a place in our lifes where something so simple is the feeling that is the hardest to know what it is like.   That feeling would be love!   It is both easy and hard to give or receive .   When we are dealing with so much hard things;  you can feel alone as if no one will understand the feelings you have.   But if the people who you are closest to are there with you it seems easier, they might not understand everything you are going through but the support and love can mean so much.   The best way to help someone is just by loving them.

the best gift

What is your favorite gift?
Think of every gift you have ever gotten

a gift does not have to be something,

it could be a person.
Friendship is the best gift!

Especially when you know it’s meant to be

and that friendship will always be!

Real strength is not giving up when everything in your life is hard. It is knowing that the day will come when the sun will shine on you.   What you go through to have a life you have always dreamed about,  life is hard but when you have the right support you can get through so much more than trying to do everything on your own.  “Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t.

We never know the way things are are will change,  we should always make sure that the people who we love know how much they mean to us.  ”You love harder, laugh louder, live richer, and become more together than you could ever be by yourself.” Don’t take life for granter.

 

Trying something new

I have been thinking about what I want to have this online community service, I wish that this part wasn’t so hard to get an idea and just stick with it. I wish that all the issues I want to make a difference in,  could somehow be under the same topic but they are not. The only thing that they have in common is love. Everything we go through could be helped with love and knowing that you are supported.  There is so much hurt and loneliness in the world, that I just want to fix it all by inspiring and just loving those I can!  All of my life I have wanted to make a difference in people’s lifes more than anything else I could do.  It seems like loving others should come first but the way we live its hard sometimes to put others first,  we try so hard to fit in that if there is something that we do different we get the looks like its weird to be who you are.   But aren’t we all different?  I know I can’t help everyone but I know there is a way to serve people who are going through a hard time and don’t know where to turn. I want to have this be a place where people can message me or write on the blog/facebook page when you just need someone to talk to.  If you want you can also email me at zvargues6@gmail.com.

I wish I could help everyone who is going through a hard time,  the people who feel alone; having the feeling that nobody cares for you does not help any.   You might think that being strong means dealing with the hard times on your own,  you are wrong.   Life can be hard,  but if you have support you can get through most things I’m not saying that the hard times won’t come, but the right support will make a difference in the times when you can’t do it alone.  I think depression can begin from being on your own so much; thinking that people in your life don’t want to help you or they don’t understand what it is that is getting you down. When we all go through times when love is needed more,  if you think about it you will see how much love can get you through the hardest times.   Just think about how you feel when someone texts you just to let you know that you are loved so much;  it can  change your whole day.

What in your life keeps you going?

Who helps you get through the hard times?
The sun lights up the sky and brings us happiness,

but what or who helps you when you don’t think you can handle the hard times?

We all need to have something or someone who helps us get through the hard times!
Love is necessary for healing the brokenness we all feel at some point in life.

What makes us family?

We all have a birth family the people who have the same name as you.   A mother and father who brought you life  But do you ever think about your friends being a part of your family?   Or think about the kids who have been adopted the family they have are not the people who had them.   But those children know that the people who love and support them,  that is a family.  The people who truly care about you are family!   Its not just the people who have your last name,  but the people who are understanding and love you the way you are!

I got this from a friend,  I really think this is why I want to help others.   There are so many people who don’t have a lot of love or support in their lives, if we could show people that they are loved;  we could help end depression.

If you can wake up every morning loving what you do, help and inspire others around you to be better than they were yesterday then you know you’re doing something right in business and in life.

Be an inspiration. In this cruel world full of people who are only concerned with bringing others down with their judgments, words, and thoughts, we have to be one of the few who actually make an effort to inspire others, and make a difference by being the best motivators we can by simply being ourselves. We must all aspire to inspire, and aspire to create a better world by the time we are gone from it, and then it was when we first began it.

There are many ways to inspire others, but one good way is to actually follow your own dreams wholeheartedly, never give up, and be willing to bless others with tips and kind words that may help others to see that there is still much good around on this humungous planet. Be someone’s inspiration before you no longer have the chance to be, inspire the change in the world that will inspire more change in the world.”

Being Different.

The word disability can have so many different meanings,  there is a person that you can see the disability and then there are hidden disabilities.   What does it really mean to have a disability?   Here is the dictionary defines a disability, ”the condition of being unable to do things in the normal way : the condition of being disabled”.  Although is anyone”so called normal’?  I think we all have some kind of disability that makes us special and needed.   So what if you can see that I have cerebral palsy I don’t care!   No one is normal I’m sorry to say,  but if you have needed help you have some kind of disability.   We all need help sometimes,  having a life without other people would be boring.  Life is meant to be shared,  having love in life makes all the hard times a little easier just knowing that someone is on your side.   Have you thought about that needing somebody could define it as having a disability?   Its not a big deal?   Yes I know what you are thinking, that I’m going crazy. But just think about it,  if you are different you are special.   So why do we look at being different in a bad way,  there are no two people who are the same.   That is what makes life so great!

A hero

Who is a hero in your life?  Who do you look up to?   Something like this can be hard to see,  who are really heroes in life.   We think of a hero as soldiers,  someone who saves people’s life.   But there is so much more that I think that makes someone a hero,  now I am not saying that soldiers and the people who give up their lives to make us save are not heroes they are.   Heroes can also be the people who keep going when everything seems to be going wrong.  they never give up on their dreams! You can just give in to lifes hard times, thinking that you can’t change it; or you can fight against all the things that are in your way!   Someone who lives and fights through the times when giving in would be easier, we know people who are un-named heroes who should be honored!

Dancing your way through the hard times

Do you think that dancing could change your life?   We all go through things that no-matter how hard we try to understand it doesn’t make sense.   We tried everything to come to understand the way life can work sometimes;  all we want to say it’s not fair;  or why me.   Finding a way to get through it could be hard without dance.   I think on days like that;  dancing might help it may get the hard things off your mind.   I am going to try it!

What is being thankful?

Its easy for us to only see the things we wish we could change.   The stuff that can get everyone down on life .  In those times it’s so hard to see that each day there is something to be grateful for;  may be it’s just something like having a good home, or maybe it’s knowing that you can change the way we look at life.  Our out look on the hard times can be what helps the most.  Being thankful for even the smallest thing can be so helpful.   Joking about the things you do also helps. There is so much to give thanks for everyday, but we don’t often see how lucky we are!

Do you accept who you are as a person?

Have  you ever thought about this question?  Sometimes it’s hard to think about yourself; but it is important for you to love who you are!   Life puts titles on us but the title we have for ourselves is the most important.

A month for love.

Looking up at night sky can be so amazing.   You can see a thousand stars; its as if they all have a name that somehow goes with us.   I know for me;  looking up at the stars gets me to thinking about how we are all the same.   The stars have a great way to let you feel that you are loved!  It may seem like a crazy idea;  but I really believe that the stars have a way to let us know that we are loved!

This month is all about loving others; its Valentine’s Day just one day out of the month.  But I would like to think it could be a season just like we have a Christmas season; so I want to let this be a season of love!   Love is something I don’t think that there is enough of,  there are so many people who feel alone,  unloved;  but why?   Its the easiest thing to give but we sometimes forget that we could help support someone just by loving them!

What is faith?

What is faith?

Faith is knowing that there is something more out there.

For many it’s believing in God

For others faith is something else,

It can also be just hope that things will get better

Its the believing in something that we can’t see,

but we know it’s there.

There is a reason for everything

Are there moments in your life when you wonder why me?   Life has its reasons why things happen the way they do.   It doesn’t tell you why or when it will happen.   The hard times don’t let you know when they are coming,  they just come.   They don’t care if you are alone or if you have a good support team behind you.   Its sad knowing that there are people who feel alone, or like no one cares.  How can we let others go unseen and unloved?  All that we would need to do is show them love.

Life is meant to be shared.

Life is about relationships, that is what can really change life for anyone.   Think about someone who has everything that one could buy,  but their life is full of work and things;  are they happy?   Not truly.  People need to have real relationships in their lives, not only to have someone to share the happiest moments with,  but also someone to make us feel special when life is hard.   We can not buy comfort,  we need to have someone who understands what we are going through,  someone who we know that no-matter where they are,  they will be there for us. Life is not meant to be without love,  it is the key to a happy life!

One of those message games

This is one of those message games.   I loved what it says I thought it would be a great uplifting message.

”This world needs as much kindness as it can get. I’m participating in the ‘Pay it Forward’ initiative: the first five people who comment on this status with “I’m in” will receive a surprise from me at some point during this year anything from a book, a ticket, something homemade, a postcard, absolutely any surprise! There will be no warning and it will happen when the mood comes over me and I find something that I believe would suit you and make you happy. These five people must make the same offer on their Facebook status Once my first five have “I’m in” I will forward this message to you privately so that you can copy and paste it, and put it in your status. (Don’t share it) so that we can form a web of connection of kindness. Let’s do more nice and loving things in 2015, without any reason other than to make each other smile and show that we think of each other. Here’s to a more enjoyable, friendly, and love filled year!.”

Thoughts of Depression

The more I learn about depression the more I feel like there is so much that I need to know. Depression is more of a disability than a sickness.  It takes control of everything in your body; where as a sickness is only in a few areas of the body mostly.   Depression for most people takes over the way people with depression sometimes think.  I think depression is not something that people who have it can get over;  they can feel better but I feel like depression is a sickness that is always there.  I wish for people who have depression to know that they are loved.

Life can get down

When life gets you down, what do you do? Who understands what is getting to you?  These questions we have all wondered about; when life seems too much to handle. It may seem like no one cares about what is getting to you, as if you are the only person that feels sadness. So you find some way to feel better, it may take the hurt away for a little while.  We need to talk to someone else that could help us, sometimes we can’t help ourselves when we find ourselves getting into bad habits just to feel good about yourself.  We all have hard times;  we have people who care for us to help when it’s really needed.

Beauty

You are beautiful in side and out,

People don’t hear that a lot,

Then it can turn into

Worrying  to much about what other people see but not

who we truly are,

What truly matters is how you look is you!

A link to my old blog.

When I first started to write I was using a blog on google but since I started using wordpress.  I wanted to transfer all my writings into one site but I have put some on here already that I’m not sure which ones I’ve posted on already, so I’ve decided to put the link to my old blog here.  If you want to take a look here is the link;  http://livelifeoflove.blogspot.com.

We all have been in that time in our lives;  where thinking about just today is what is important?  When you are a time in life where trying to think about the next day,  month can feel overwhelming.   So take it day by day,  may be its a new start for you.  We need to have time where we don’t care about what will happen tomorrow.   We sometimes need to live in the moment,  life is a big what if!   But we forget that we may not always have tomorrow life is a gift.  So it’s going to know what you want your life to become;  but live in the moment!

The new year has started;  my family members are gone; I wish life did not lead our lives far away from the people we love the most.   Its hard to see that no-matter where we are in the world we are together.  I would think why couldn’t we live in one big continent so that we could just a drive a way.  But everyone moves and creates their our lives all the world;  which I guess can be great,  going to different countries and new experiences.  The more we can learn about other lifestyle the more we can understand how differences can be amazed may be we could see and understand how we are the same.   We may have family members all over the world but we always are together.

This year is over. Was it a great year, what are you are going to do next?  What will next year bring you?  Would you want to do something that will change someone’s life? I have never been  one to have a new years resolution, but this time I think I have one, its more of a goal than a resolution. But I want to get my writing out so much more, there are so many people who feel hurt, alone and brokenhearted. I know I can’t help everyone,  but I know there is a way to inspire and just let others feel cared for.   This is going to be my mission for this year to get my dream/hope to be real, facebook/this blog, my writing to help others!

Time to share with loved ones is the Christmas present!  Life should have this feeling the whole year not just one day or week;  but each day!   Each day we can make someone’s day.  Its not that hard,  people out there are feeling alone and brokenhearted why?  We could smile at someone just passing by us;  or if you know a friend needs love, someone just to listen and to let them know that they have somebody that will always be there no-matter what time they need you.   Christmas for most people is the gifts and we forget that love is the gift that is needed!

”Never give up on someone that you can’t go a full day without thinking about.”  This is so true; if there is someone who somehow everyday comes to your mind,  never give up them.  You might not know how much that person needs you.   Love is so easy to give; but so many people don’t have it in their lives. There is a reason why you think about that person everyday, think of it as they need to feel loved.  If you know someone that needs help or love;  there is so much that you can do to show them you are there for them.   It shouldn’t matter if they reply one day you will know how much you just saying how much they mean to you how much it made a difference in their life knowing that there is someone that cares for them.

quote

Love makes you vulnerable and susceptible to emotional paroxysm.When you love someone you give them every bit of you slowly and slowly.You share yourself bit by bit .You give them your whole complete self..you give them your heart, your soul, your mind and your body and everything else about your being..You love them from breath to breath, from thought to thought and from moment to moment. But when they leave they take your best part with them and that is your soul and they leave you breathless, thoughtless and lifeless.They just leave you shattered with all your bits and pieces but you cannot gather them and fix them back like they were fixed before and then you are a changed person.You are left so broken that you can never be the same again..NEVER…Aarti Khurana”

I saw this quote and thought I had to share.

Helping people

Life is not about giving up, but you are in a hardship in life sometimes you can’t see any way out.   There will be people who will either try everything they can to help you get where you want to get in life; or there will be others that will not care to help you.   Or even there are people who will want to help you,  but they may not just not know how to help you.  On the other hand;  there are might be some people who you want to help.  Sometimes people might not want help;  so the best thing you could do is just by letting them how you care for them.

Why is there sadness?
Why can’t we all see that we are all the same?

Look past the difference,

And you will see that we are equal?

Hope and Love

Little bit of love can go a long way.
Hope that better times will come.
Do what you can to help others.
This season is for giving and hope.

People we love.

Look around

Look at the people who mean the most to you.

Does it matter how much you see them?
Or does  the time you have together matter more?
Remember the good times you had together

And know that no one can take that moment away from you

Self confidence in you.

Self confidence in the most important person;  YOU.   Today it is easy to think it the way others see you is more important than how you see yourself. The world is full of differences so why do we care so much about how others see us?  So what if you think differently,  so what you look,  talk differently.   Its your life, do what you love?   Make yourself happy about you!    Today there are so many people who feel hurt and unloved just because of the way they are, than can turn into someone not caring about the way they look; if nobody tells you that you are beautiful or that you’re amazing;  you will do anything you can feel that you are loved .  Its so important for everybody to feel like they are wanted loved and to know that there is no one like you.  Sometimes it’s ok to put yourself first; do what makes you happy!   Don’t let others put you down!

needs hope

How can you love someone who is far away?

Who you know needs your support,

Who has been through a lot.

A person who you know you could be there for.

In life we came across people that something team us

they they needs a true relationship.
Who do you know that needs you?

Everything in life happens for a reason even the people who you hold close! There are some people who you just know they were placed in your life a reason: although you may not understand why. You just have a special connection, which can not be broken! True friendships are amazing and last forever . Friends are the family you get to choose. Never let go of that kind of friendship. 

Who are you?

Do you know what you are meant to do?
Is your daily life what you had hoped for?

If you don’t know;

 it’s not that’s ok
Does anyone know or have everything they wanted?  No

do you know you are not alone?

 

Each day is a gift,  we can change the world or the way people view differences.
We all have been down,  depressed.   So why keep it in?  Talk to someone, don’t hide it.
It could help!

Questions

What do you want your life to look like?

Is it what you had hoped it would be?

”’Is there someone in your life that may need a little support. Someone that may need to hear the words ‘Are you ok, I am here for you’ Who can you ask today ?”’  Let’s try something new till the end of the year; each day try to talk to somebody who you could use a friend.  Someone who is alone,  today we are so worried about fitting in that we don’t want to be with people who are different even if they are the ones who could really your friendship.  There are too many people who have depression because nobody will take the time to listen to them; let them know that they are loved, they have support which everyone needs.

Depression is a sickness yes do you think it medicine is the only way to cure it?   Do you think ever goes away for good?     Here are my thoughts to these questions;  first medicine can help desperation but it is not the only way to cure it.   Supporting and loving them will make a big difference that goes for any kind of mental sickness.   Support for anyone is the key to living an happy life,  really think about it; if you don’t feel loved but you have everything money can get but if you don’t have love in your life you will not have true happiness.

World’s best feelings

  • First time being called as dad or mom.
  • First kiss from your loved one.
  • The moment you exchange the rings during wedding.
  • Your baby smiling at you.
  • Realizing that you have become grandpa or grandma.
  • The moment you are proposing your loved one/ your loved one proposing you.
  • Your friend holding your hands and saying “everything will be fine”.
  • Your sibling wiping off your tears and giving you a big hug.
  • The moment you receive flowers for the first time from the person you love.
  • First love.
  • Last day of your school/college life.
  • When you receive your First pay.
  • Last kiss when you are in deathbed.

The sun lights up the darkness,  relationships can help someone out of the darkness.   How can we not see a little bit of love, could save someone’s life?

Relationships are that important!

Love why do I write about that one word so much?   I believe love is the one thing we want more than anything else.   Love could fix anything hard times,  when life is feels as if everything is coming down on you;  if you don’t have love in your life you are not going to be happy,  you may think that there are other ways other than love and there; but love can get you true happiness.

Just some great sayings. 

”’Don’t worry about what others think, This is YOUR life, live it the way you want to.”’

”Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing. -Mother Teresa”

”’It’s important to give it all you have while you have the chance. – Shania Twain”

”’A good life is when you smile often, dream big, laugh a lot, and realize how blessed you are for what you have.”

 

 

You!

What makes you happy?

Where do you go to think?
Where do you go to get away to have some you time?
Do you know that you are special,  loved and wanted?

Today’s thought. Topic – how to cope with loneliness?