Every person’s true identity is beautiful, and much of the ugliness we observe in others was put inside of them by external influences. We all know the true beauty of people everywhere, because we have all looked into the eyes of children and saw ourselves looking back. When someone is suffering, there is a deep, visceral reaction in the core of our being, a flood of empathy and a frightfully desperate compulsion to give aid. When we see a person in physical crisis laying with a broken body and their blood pouring out, our deepest, most urgent instinct is to rush to them, and put our hands upon their wounds and comfort them. When someone is emotionally upset and crying, nothing is right in our own world. Our truest nature is to be helpful to others and to protect and love them. We care about people, and delight in seeing others happy and safe. We see this on a large scale in the aftermath of a catastrophe; the world population is deeply touched by the images of suffering, and many rush to help either financially or in person, when there is a tragedy. This is who we really are. When we see someone laughing, our spirits rise, and the laughter comes pouring into our own souls, and we find ourselves helplessly smiling. When we witness someone commit an act of kindness or selflessness, our emotions are stirred and we are touched by the high, noble spirit of what we know is the greatest truth — that we care about others, and delight in seeing others happy and safe.
— Bryant McGill

Love never gives up !  !  As we start a new year; what is something that we could change within our selfs?  We do something like this every time we begin a new year thinking we will stick to it, but most times we end up giving it up life gets in the way.   Or maybe you don’t think you can do something that would better your life;  you are not good enough but you are!   I know that feeling of giving up;  like there is nothing else you can do.  This next year let’s work on something we all need and maybe you don’t think it would make a difference in life,  but it does.  So one of my goals for the new year is to love without thinking about what I want from the other person.  Maybe there will be more that I want to change in my life but for now that is what is on my heart the most.

So many people cover-up things within themselves. They smile when they really need to frown. They “laugh” nervously when they are uneasy and uncomfortable. They try to make it “all right” so everything can be “perfect” and “fine.” We do this to be accepted. We do this because people guilt us into acting perfect. We fake perfect, so others don’t have to experience any unpleasant realities, because their life is just as fake as ours. If some people came into contact with anything real they would be shocked out of their minds. This phony life builds-up inside of you until one day you erupt like a volcano, and you don’t know why. But, some people don’t explode, they implode. They fake perfect until they disappear forever and become someone else’s version of who they “should” be. Either way it’s a total loss of life. You are lost because you have not been honest with yourself, and your life is largely unexamined and unexerted. You have to do some thinking and know who you are, and then you have to resist compromising your truth for the comfort of others. Don’t intentionally be rude, but be you. Some people will see you as an asshole because they don’t understand honesty, integrity and honoring oneself. Witnessing honesty frightens some people because they haven’t known authenticity in their own life. But really, your abrasion is the rub they may need to open themselves or at least cause them to think. In a world of sleepwalkers, an awakened mind is a teacher and a catalyst for new awakenings, whether they want to be or not. A moment of truth is very powerful. Instead of smiling to be polite, just frown. Instead of laughing when you are nervous or uncomfortable, just speak your truth. Instead of acting like everything is alright, proclaim it isn’t alright, and talk about your feelings! Honor your truth. Honor yourself. Be real. If you can honor yourself and be real about your discomfort and pain, then your happiness will be just as real. If you can’t be real and firm with others about who you really are, you will be doomed to a phony, plastic bullshit existence, where you only live for others. When you are real you can move through what ails you, instead of being stuck there forever in some sort of “Pleasantville” hell.
— Bryant McGill

Each year there is at least one thing I can ask for as a Christmas gift idea, but this year there is nothing I want nothing you can buy. But here is what I want the one thing I went more than anything.  I want to find a way to let people in my life how much love I feel for each of the special friendships I have had in my word that had made it great just by understanding me.   Especially this year when I have been starting out on my own.   I never thought I could live independently from my mom who has done for me.   Now for the time I am independent and I am so happy that I can live on my own.  I just want to find a way to say I LOVE YOU SO MUCH over and over!  Thanks toall the support though this year.

One smile has the power to… Calm fears. Soften stone walls. Warm a cold heart. Invite a new friend. Mimic a loving hug. Beautify the bearer. Lighten heavy loads. Promote good deeds. Brighten a gloomy day. Comfort a grieving spirit. Offer hope to the forlorn. Send a message of caring. Lift the downtrodden soul. Patch up invisible wounds. Weaken the hold of misery. Act as medicine for suffering. Attract the companionship of angels. Fulfill the human need for recognition. Who knew changing the world would prove so simple? — Richelle E. Goodrich

Love is always bestowed as a gift – freely, willingly and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved; we love to love.~ Leo Buscaglia.

I think this is something I should work on;  loving people because I love to make people feel so special and needed.   I think that is what I am meant to do with my life.   But lately I’ve not been loving and understanding which I am going to change.  I would rather love people without them knowing than being all about me.

The tiniest gesture — a smile, a gentle look, a simple pat on the arm, a soft word — can change a person’s life. Before this very day is out, you are going to have a chance to live in that possibility. Look. Watch. See what this day brings you. And be ready. Someone is waiting for that smile, that look, that gesture from you right now. — Neale Donald Walsch

There is a way of having your needs met without negativity and complaining. If you want something — give it. Being positive, giving and caring may not always work out exactly the way you wish, but whatever you give will come back to you one way or another. Your giving heart may inspire change in another, or qualify you for a better situation if the current situation must eventually change. And, even if it fails with the person in whom you wish to see a behaviour change — even if they are totally non-responsive, dysfunctional and a taker — you still can’t lose, because you can never lose by being awesome and by being your very best.
— Bryant McGill

I have been going through some things that have been helping me to realize that I need change parts of my life,  and at first, I couldn’t think about it being a good change.   Change can be hard for anybody,  and during the holidays which are already kind of hard for me, missing my brothers, my family who are far away I should be used to it.  But I am not!  This season is supposed to be happy for me this year I am not doing that good with it; and I everything else would want but the people I wish I could be with this holiday season.

I am starting to be more independent,  living on my own the best I can,  I have a job and living life as close to normal as I can.   Looking to next year I am going to do work on changing a few things that I do that I don’t like about myself , , I am to work on growing my business and Ms. Wheelchair Colorado.   I want to write more on differences.

Everyone has their own path. Walk yours with integrity and wish all others peace on their journey. When your paths merge, rejoice for their presence in your life. When the paths are separated, return to the wholeness of yourself, give thanks for the footprints left on your soul, and embrace the time to journey on your own. — Unknown Author