We all have hard times, the first of this year I was not very happy, sometimes I can get into a place where even though I have so much support and love I still get depressed, in that mind set it’s so easy to think that I am not good enough or I can’t do anything with my life, but really that is not true! I just needed to step out of that way of thinking and I soon saw what I am already doing. I am raining an organization called Ms. Wheelchair Colorado it is such a great organization to be a part of. I also write to support others who are going through a hard time, and I work with special needs high school students.  Everything that I do how could I feel depressed you may ask; having a disability where you always need to have with of your physical needs,can get hard sometimes. When you get to age where you should have a job and be able to take care of yourself, but when it comes down to it for me,  I can’t do it without help. Most of the time I am very happy and I don’t let what I can’t do get to me;  but the last few weeks I have been down and kind of wishing I had a normal job and that I could live without needing help for everything;  but I do.  I know there are so many things I can do.   I need to focus on what I can do,  but when you are depressed it can be hard to see the things you can do.   May be you are like me,  you need someone to be there to talk to when you’re feeling down.   Having a great friendship can just give you what you need to get back to yourself again.  

As an organism and being, your total intelligence is profoundly greater than what you can observe of yourself. Your education, intelligence, memory, vocabulary and obvious mental faculty is just the mere surface of your intelligence. There is a vast kingdom of understanding within you that you cannot consciously grasp. Each cell within you is its own kingdom of genius with a powerful will for life. You are one masterful orchestration; a system of great intuition, unfamiliar senses and ancient instincts that are constantly transmitting survival insight in your moments of challenge. Don’t think you can outsmart or intellectually instruct the ocean of ancient wisdom within you. Intellectuality is often loud, clumsy, forceful and arrogant. Surrender and meditative calm will allow your total intelligence to come forward and instruct you with powerful patterns for living. Your will for life is speaking to you through every layer and level of your being’s stratum; from the conscious to the unconscious. The way you open yourself to the ocean of wisdom within you is through humility, calm, and quietness. The way you marshal the vast kingdom of survival strength is through total humility and listening. Open yourself to your unfamiliar instincts that are quietly hidden below the noise and chatter of common thought. Trust yourself. Honor yourself. Accept yourself. There are legions of unknown forces within you awaiting your cooperation. The way you commune with your total force of intelligence is through surrender. In the quietness of your still mind, you will hear the whispers of a vast longing for life guiding you each step on your journey. You are safe. You are strong. You are brilliant. You are walking through life with total protection — if you listen and trust yourself.

— Bryant McGill

We often think of oppression in terms of tyrants, but it most often comes from the institutions, philosophies, and people closest to us. Most oppression is near and dear. Next time your spouse or partner abusively criticizes you, or says you are worthless, not good enough, stupid or inadequate — tell them that if it is true, to consider that those alleged deficiencies could be what prevented you from getting a better mate. They say they can’t stand your behaviour, but really, they can’t stand themselves. People like this often criticize you from the position of being the “wiser” or “stronger” person, who they claim are only trying to “help” you. If they really were strong they wouldn’t yell, they would reassure. If they were really strong they wouldn’t put you down, they would lift you up. Maybe you’re the one who is really strong. Maybe they just want to hold you back. Maybe it’s time to stand-up for yourself!
— Bryant McGill

 

“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.”— Mother Teresa

We have always heard that we need to love others as we love our self’s, although when you don’t love yourself it can be hard to give out love.  These days people are so much in the way someone looks,  acts, that we are used to hearing, you are not good enough,  you are different.   Having those words can sunk into your heart and you can start to think that you will fit in, you are not good enough,  you start not loving yourself.   Well guess what!   I think we are different we all have some kind of disability, what is normal anyway?

“The problems of the world seem so enormous that sometimes we think “what’s the point? Little ole me can’t make a difference.” The thing is, if we all were to work at changing ourselves, we are contributing to the well-being of the world. Change yourself, love yourself, practice more compassion and kindness and you create a ripple effect. It makes your relationships at home, at work, in your social settings better and that tiny ripple keeps on going. We don’t realize the impact we have on each other and thus the world and society as a whole. Each of us is needed. Each of us makes a difference.” -Marcel Lawrence

Primal doubts are the worst; I’m ugly, I’m fat, I’m not smart or good enough. The difficult thing is that no matter how inaccurate — primal doubts can seem very real — and what seems real is real in a psychosomatic sense. And, the world can indeed judge us very harshly, and those judgments can truly impact our lives in ways that are catastrophic to our self-image if we are not deeply secure in ourselves. But no matter how the world judges us, it’s ultimately our inner demons that we contend with day-to-day; a fight no one can win for us, but ourselves. The battle takes place in the mind and is fought with our inherited and modeled skills, and our inner-voice.

— Bryant McGill

When Someone You Know Has Cancer Article date: December 22, 2015 By Stacy Simon

As medical knowledge advances, more and more people are surviving cancer. With more than 14 million survivors and counting, chances are you know someone who’s been told they have some type of cancer.

Studies have found that cancer survivors with strong emotional support tend to better adjust to the changes cancer brings to their lives, have a more positive outlook, and often report a better quality of life. Often, however, family, friends, and co-workers of cancer patients want to help, but just don’t know what to do. If someone you know has been diagnosed with cancer or another serious illness, you may be wondering how to help or what to say.

Here are some ideas about where to start:

Keep in touch.

  • Write, text, email, or call often, and keep it short.
  • Call at times that work best for your friend.
  • When your friend calls or texts you, answer right away.

Visit.

  • Call before you visit, and be understanding if your friend can’t see you at that time.
  • Keep the visit short, and be understanding if the family decides it’s time to end the visit. Bring a movie to watch together, a snack to share, a book to read while your friend naps, or a newspaper to help your friend catch up on current events.
  • Don’t be afraid to touch, hug, or shake hands with your friend.

Know what to say (and not to say).

  • Gear the conversation to subjects that you know your friend likes to talk about.
  • Be sensitive to your friend’s attention span, and understand that they may be too tired to participate actively.
  • Help your friend participate in the conversation by asking questions: Ask for their advice, their opinions, and how they’re feeling.
  • Give honest compliments, such as “You look rested today.”
  • Allow your friend to be negative, silent, or withdrawn, if that is how they’re feeling.
  • Don’t urge your friend to be strong or fight the cancer if they don’t feel up to it.
  • Don’t leave out your friend when talking to others in the room, or assume they can’t hear you even if they appear to be asleep.
  • Don’t offer medical advice or your opinion on things like diet, vitamins, and herbal therapies.

Offer to run errands.

  • Organize family, friends, neighbors, and co-workers to help complete regularly scheduled tasks.
  • Helpful tasks may include making meals, cleaning the house, caring for the lawn and garden, baby-sitting, pet sitting, grocery shopping, picking up prescriptions, and driving family and friends to and from the airport.
  • Do urgent errands right away.

Remember caregivers.

Your friend isn’t the only one who may need help coping with cancer; the person (or people) taking care of them could also use your support. Caregivers often neglect their own needs because they are so busy taking care of their loved one. Helping your friend’s caregiver is another way to show you care.

  • Offer to stay with your friend while the caregiver takes a break. It’s important for caregivers to get some time to themselves.
  • Help out the caregiver with errands, too. Ask which tasks would be most helpful – and follow through.

Reviewed by: Members of the ACS Medical Content Staff


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What or who says if you are beautiful or not?   Why do we care if we are different,  don’t people understand that being different is what the world so amazing to live in?   Because we are all different, but yet we have something a like.  I have a disability you can easily see without having to ask,  but there are many disabilities people may have that you can’t see right a way.  Its easy to judge just because sometimes they are acting different from you, but when you get to know them you realize that you are not that different from each other.

15 BEST TIPS FOR A STRESS LESS 2016

1. IDENTIFY what’s necessary and say no to the rest.

2. FOCUS on what really matters.

3. LET GO of what doesn’t work.

4. STRIVE for simplicity.

5. FIND 3 hobbies you love and do them often:

One to make you HAPPY.
One to keep you HEALTHY.
One to be CREATIVE.

6. BREAK one bad habit.

7. LEARN one new skill.

8. EXERCISE 5 days a week.

9. EAT an DRINK sensibly.

10. SEE the positive side of everything.

11. CHOOSE to be kind over being right.

12. SAY “I Love You” and HUG more.

13. EXPECT less. GIVE more. FORGIVE often

14. WHEN in doubt, take a few deep breaths and wait…

15. SLOW DOWN. SMILE. RELAX. REFLECT…

~ by Loann
Loving Wellness – Mind and Body ♥♥

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Quote by Dr.Charles F. Glassman * Coach MD