If you want good things to happen in your life you have to believe good things are possible for yourself. Quit allowing negative and cynical thinking to steal the good life you deserve. Quit assuming you are finished. You are not finished or washed-up. Maybe you are just beginning. Quit comparing yourself to others; to both their fortune and misfortune. Their life is not your life anyway; you have your own life to live. Don’t harbor resentment because some appear to be doing better than you, or guilt because others appear to be doing worse. Resentment and guilt are commonly and closely tied to worthiness issues and are not constructive in the long-term. They may be useful — like all emotions — but not as a platform for building a positive and healthy life. Prolonged feelings of resentment and guilt will block your opportunities from arriving. Focus on your own development. Try to manage your own suffering with as much dignity as possible. Try to carry both your burdens and successes with calm and centeredness. Open yourself to the possibility that your challenges, no matter what they may be, are the most honest and giving expressions of life you will ever know.

— Bryant McGill

This year coming up on my birthday

Each year I can think of a few things I would like to get for my birthday,  but this year as my birthday is coming up and as I think about this last year and everything I have and all I am doing.   I don’t want gifts there is nothing I want.   I just want to be with the people who mean the most to me.  The best gift for me is knowing that I am loved, this year I already received some amazing gifts which are not things you can buy as in;  friendships, starting my own own life,  having a job after a long time of thinking I couldn’t get a one that I could do well in.  I just received so much this year and to you;  it might not seem like gifts,  but they are so much to me.   Life is awesome and I don’t have to be someone I’m not to have a happy life.   So thankful!

When you are at the brink of destruction; at your most vulnerable and desperate hour and everyone has given-up on you, this is when the stranger appears. The stranger arrives when your heart is broken open, ready and believing. The stranger’s eye is clear and not stained with your past mistakes. They are the ones who will leave you that hundred dollar tip or unexpectedly offer you a new opportunity. They are the ones who will stop and change your tire on the freeway, or give you a place to stay for a while. She is the one who compassionately looked you in the eye in the store when your abusive partner was yelling at you. Like an angel, he came in at the last moment and gave you the support or the advice you needed. They made the call to a friend and put themselves at risk to open an essential door for you because they saw something amazing in you. The stranger is the one who gave you something that was a much bigger personal sacrifice than you ever knew, because she did it with humility, grace, and with no expectation. The stranger is the one who believed in you when no one else would. The stranger uplifted you with words of hope and optimism when you were at your lowest. The stranger silently suffered to give you room to recover and to try again. The stranger meets you halfway on a bridge called faith. The stranger is coming to make someone’s dreams come true. The stranger’s hand is appearing out of nowhere and rescuing someone just before they slip over the edge. The stranger’s appearance is in perfect time and is a miracle. The stranger could be a real life angel. Have faith and courage, and — BE THE STRANGER.

Do we realize that everything could charge in a moment?   Do people really know how much they are loved?   I am thinking about these two questions during this time in life .  Trying to be happy because I am healthy and I have great life and I am loved!   But sometimes I don’t always feel happy and right now I am not totally happy,  a friend of mine is very sick I can not even go see her,  there is nothing anyone can do for her.  This time for her family and friends not knowing what will come next it so hard I am praying for her and everybody who loves her.   

Live life like you mean it! Stop procrastinating! Do all that you can…with all that you have…in the place that you are…right now! Life is too unpredictable to put things off and not take it seriously. Show up in your own life. Get busy…make your mark. Create your legacy and live your best life now. You have something special. You have GREATNESS within you! — Les Brown

 

 

Truth has power. And if we all gravitate toward similar ideas, maybe we do so because those ideas are true…written deep within us. And when we hear the truth, even if we don’t understand it, we feel that truth resonate within us…vibrating with our unconscious wisdom. Perhaps the truth is not learned by us, but rather, the truth is re-called…re-membered…-re-cognized…as that which is already inside us.
― Dan Brown

 

My thoughts on the movie ” me before you”.

Me before you is a movie about newly disabled man in England and I have been reading all the disappointed disabled community who think the main idea people are going away with after seeing this movie is that; people who are injured or in a wheelchair will all want to end their lifes.  I don’t agree,  I know each person is different each of us has a different view on life; some of us if ever faced with an injury that can make you depend on other people to get out of bed,  eat and every physical need you once could do without even thinking about it.  But after the injury for some people that independence might be gone;  could you even imagine ?  Even I don’t think I would have a hand time facing a life where the only thing I could move is my head,  and I already need a lot of help. In the book/movie the main guy was a business man and had a great life going for him, then within minutes everything in his life would change.   He went from being independent to always needing care, he became depressed and he could not aspect his life in a wheelchair no-matter how much he had or if he could get all the help in the world,  he would never be happy with his new life, even having a caregiver that was willing to be with him ; he didn’t feel like this was him and he was in so much pain everyday all day,  yes he was happy at the end but it would never be comfortable and he knew he could not better.  He wanted to take his own life and though his family supported him in that.   I could understand why he would want to end his life.  I also understand the disabled community views on this movie, but everybody is different that man wasn’t happy he was depressed and that on it’s own can’t always be helped especially if they have suicidal.    Having depression to the point of wishing your life was over,  is not something to take lightly,  I haven’t had the feeling that life is not wroth living,  but if they have those it’s not always easy to get out of that thought,  he had said that this new life wasn’t him.  Now I am not trying to say what happened in the movie is right but everybody is different and some people have suicidal thoughts so bad enough that it doesn’t matter how much we try we can’t help them if they don’t want to helped.  It something we who   have a great life won’t ever understand what that feeling is like.   So I think the movie/book is a great story about a man who became disabled and he tried to be happy and it just didn’t feel like himself being depend on everyone else to him live.  It is not about the whole disabled community,  it was about his life and he thought about his life in a wheelchair.  

The last thing you want to hear is that someone you love is sick or these is nothing you can do to help!     I know I’ve been there too many times.   How can you be there without overwhelming them?  Its as if you can’t do enough to let them know that you are going to be there with them through their hard journey.  But you can, just by letting them know that you are always there for them, it doesn’t matter how long that they need you.  Even if it’s just a texts each day you know they are going through a hard time.  When you know your loved one has  someone who will be there no matter what, can make all the difference.