There is a difference between loyalty and bondage. There is a difference between faithfulness and fearfulness. There is a difference between being devoted and being dominated. The difference is called freedom, it is all the difference in the world. This is your life and you get to choose what is acceptable in your relationships with absolute authority. Don’t give your authority to someone who will abuse your trust. If you have mistakenly entrusted your authority to an abuser; revoke and reclaim your power now. You are the supreme authority in your own life, and you have the final word.

— Bryant McGill

Life really wants you to learn a few lessons, and it will not stop trying to teach you until you learn. What has life been trying to teach you? Life wants you to have gratitude for the gift of living. Treasure every second. Life wants you to know yourself, be yourself and love yourself. You are a beautiful and unique person — a gift to the world. Life wants you to be able to fully receive and give affection and love. Life wants you to know that people are more important than things. Things are only here to be worn-out in the service of our needs and of those we love. Always choose people over things. Life wants you to know that feelings are more important than facts, and you should never hurt someone just to be right. Life wants you to respect yourself, respect other people and respect the planet. Be kind, patient and forgiving. Life wants you to touch, taste and see the grandeur of the world’s unfathomable variety. Travel, explore, learn and experience all you can! Life wants you to take proper care of your bodily vehicle, which carries your consciousness everywhere you wish. Life wants you to connect deeply with the hearts of other people — struggle together and rejoice together. Life wants you to thrive in the domain of your own unique creative vision for your yourself. Do not merely submit to the expectations of others or society. Life wants you to be fully supported in your needs and to live in abundance and safety. Life wants you to live in total alignment with true love, passion, and integrity. Life is trying to tell you to wake-up! It’s not too late. A thrilling, brilliant and electrifying life is yours the moment you wake-up. Proclaim now that you refuse to die without fully living!

— Bryant McGill

Within each person is the miracle of a unique consciousness unlike any other in the universe. Within you, you will find everything you need to be complete. Within you is the power of unlimited creation. Within each of us is the enormous creator potential. We must seek together to address the good aspirations of people everywhere, for we are bound together through great commonality. There is a deep interconnectedness of all life on Earth, from the tiniest organisms to the largest ecosystems, and absolutely between each person, no matter their cultures or traditions. We have a tremendous opportunity as individuals to be kind, loving and considerate to others. We possess the choice of turning away from the lower self, and reaching for the higher mind. We possess a clarifying and self-defining moment of chance to give others the greatest comfort they can have during their journey. The beginning of all hope starts with respect.

— Bryant McGill

Give up defining yourself – to yourself or to others. You won’t die. You will come to life. And don’t be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it’s their problem. Whenever you interact with people, don’t be there primarily as a function or a role, but as the field of conscious Presence. You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are. — Eckhart Tolle

Every person’s true identity is beautiful, and much of the ugliness we observe in others was put inside of them by external influences. We all know the true beauty of people everywhere, because we have all looked into the eyes of children and saw ourselves looking back. When someone is suffering, there is a deep, visceral reaction in the core of our being, a flood of empathy and a frightfully desperate compulsion to give aid. When we see a person in physical crisis laying with a broken body and their blood pouring out, our deepest, most urgent instinct is to rush to them, and put our hands upon their wounds and comfort them. When someone is emotionally upset and crying, nothing is right in our own world. Our truest nature is to be helpful to others and to protect and love them. We care about people, and delight in seeing others happy and safe. We see this on a large scale in the aftermath of a catastrophe; the world population is deeply touched by the images of suffering, and many rush to help either financially or in person, when there is a tragedy. This is who we really are. When we see someone laughing, our spirits rise, and the laughter comes pouring into our own souls, and we find ourselves helplessly smiling. When we witness someone commit an act of kindness or selflessness, our emotions are stirred and we are touched by the high, noble spirit of what we know is the greatest truth — that we care about others, and delight in seeing others happy and safe.

— Bryant McGill

Speechless!

In all of my vt  watching,  I am very excited to see ”Speechless” as I ever have been about a tv  show;  not only is it about disabilities,  but it’s about a boy who has cerebral palsy like me. I don’t know why this chose to do a show about cp, but that is what will be airing starting tomorrow night,  I’m so excited about this;  but I have wondered why don’t do it with all different kinds of disabilities and have it be a show that can be to help people get comfortably around people with disabilities.

Our differences sometimes make agreement difficult to achieve. But our differences should never make us feel wrong, nor lead us to believe that what others believe is wrong. Open your heart. Be willing to embrace different points of view, different habits, different opinions and the differences that exist between yourself and others. — Iyanla Vanzant

​Self-doubts, feeling unworthy, rejection, and past injuries can churn in us with a low-boil of anxiety. Who would you be without your self-judgments and the baggage of your past mistakes in tow with you at all times? Learning your lesson from a mistake is healthy, but living forever in the emotions of your past mistakes is toxic and debilitating. The problem with traumatic, high-stress experiences is that they often create negative beliefs about oneself such as being powerless, unlovable, undeserving, unsafe and that things are unchangeable. Sometimes we resist letting go because we just can’t see a way to move forward — believing things can never change for someone as unworthy as us. Be careful not to identify yourself with your past — you have a past, but it is not who you are today.
— Bryant McGill
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This year I have realized more about TRUE gifts that you can’t buy;  something that can make life that much better.  Other than your family,  it is knowing that someone thinks about you just as much as you do them.   Its not about anything else but how much they are always there;  just to say, ”I love you”.  Life is busy and through you want to talk to someone everyday its not always easy t let loved ones know what they are loved and special every day.   But it’s so needed!

One of the greatest blessings in life is to find out who your true friends really are. Don’t mourn for those who weren’t there for you in your time of need and don’t fault them. Be grateful that you’ve learned who really cares so that you can free yourself and your life from those who don’t; and fill your life with those who do. -oksana

Being disabled to me is apart of what makes me who I am.   I was born with CP, so I know there are going to be people who can’t see passed it, I understand that.    But when I go out and someone who see me; than acts like I am amazing just because I have cerebral palsy before getting to know me,  it’s a little crazy!   Just because my life is a little different or harder doesn’t mean I am ”a hero”   yes it can be  harder than someone doesn’t have a disability but get to know me someone who has a disability,  before you think they are amazing.  For me it’s not a big deal its part of my life,  I can imagine for someone who could walk and now can’t it may be a while before they are comfortable with their new life.   Being different or disabled can be hard at times but who’s life is easy all the time!   My disability doesn’t mean I am amazing just because I am different, get to know who I am being you think you know that I’m or anyone who is disabled.

Who you are is unique to all other consciousnesses that have ever lived on earth, or that shall ever live on earth. Relish with joy in the great gift of life, and in who you are. Be true to yourself. Dare to live as you really are, and never audit yourself, or bend, or lie, or be ashamed, or hide from who you really are. Your value comes exclusively from who you are as a unique soul. Be proud of who you are, and have no other needs or considerations, other than the joy that you have air in your lungs, and eyes to witness your own unique life as it unfolds. Life is a beautiful gift. You are a beautiful gift. Live the inner-life, have a smile in your heart, and know that the greatest purpose that you will ever have is simply daring to be yourself.— Bryant McGill

I read this saying and it helps me to be sure that what I’ve always said, we all are different.   But that is what makes us unique and a gift.

The storm is out there, and every one of us must eventually face it. When the storm comes, pray that it will shake you to your roots and break you wide open. Being broken open by the storm is your only hope. When you are broken open, you have a chance to discover for the first time what is truly inside you. Some people never get to see what is inside them; what beauty, what strength, what truth and love. They were never broken open by the storm. So, don’t run from your pain — run into your pain. Let life’s storm shatter you.
— Bryant McGil

In a world that wants you to be something else, simply have the courage to be beautiful, and let your heart’s unbridled truth flow and move upon each person you encounter. In one transformative quickening, you are freed from the tyranny of self-doubts, simply by seeing and acknowledging the treasure of your own soul. When you truly see yourself, it will be love at first sight. You are such fineness. There is such quality in your life. No substitute can ever compete with your matchless qualities. Every peace of mind you ever sought begins by forgiving yourself and loving yourself. It all starts with the way you see yourself. If you cannot see your own beauty, then you are not looking with honest eyes. If your life is not a love story, then you are not living the life meant for you.

— Bryant McGill

Technology has helped the disability community.

I have just started using a smart phone with the help from my power chair,  with special buttons and my joystick I am finally able to use something I thought I would never use!   My movements are so hard/crazy that I couldn’t use it;  I would press all the buttons, everything I don’t want to press.   Now because of the new technology a phone can be use by a power wheelchair,  it helps someone who has a disability use something that without that we could not.   I know for me having a smart phone has been a great thing to help me become more independent, I have a harder time being understood,  now I can use the note book on the phone to help people understand me.  I know technology has helped everyone.   But for the disability community technology has his our lifes a little easier.

Each person was meant to blossom into their own unique signature of greatness. Not being great is a form of extreme arrogance. If you were genuinely humble you would be great, because humility would never squander the magnificent gift of life and its fullest opportunities. It takes humility to accept responsibility for the mantle of greatness in your birthright and to become all you can be in life. Real humility is graceful power, not a mandate to be victimized and abused. If you are really humble you will put yourself first when you need to take care of you. A humble person would not put themselves last by not taking care of themselves, because that would be treating your sacred life poorly and carelessly — which is arrogant to life, not humble. Maybe you aren’t humble at all; maybe you are self-suppressed and don’t know it. Have you been playing the role of a victim long after your negative experience? If so, stop! Quit pretending to be a victim when you are really just a self-abusing, emotional-drama junkie. If you are guilty of this then stop-it now! It seems that some people are so addicted to their misery that they will destroy anything that gets in the way of their fix. Don’t be that person. A person who is humble would never be abusive or selfish; so don’t abuse yourself or selfishly withhold self-love or self-care. You are the first person you should treat with humility. Respect yourself; gather your strength and let it overflow to others.
— Bryant McGill

Information on suicide

Many of these types of comments come from stigmatizing beliefs around suicide and we can all do our bit to help educate others on how hurtful and judgemental these kinds of comments truly are. Whether for those bereaved by suicide already deep in grief, or for attempt survivors who thankfully remain alive and also those struggling with suicidal thoughts – it is hurtful not helpful.
Getting correct information on suicide is essential. Knowing the signs, what to do, what NOT to do – truly make a difference!
Please read these 4 resources to help get better informed on suicide:
1. Helpguide.org – “How to Help Someone who is Suicidal”: http://www.helpguide.org/…/suicide-prevention-helping-someo…
2. (WARNING: There is nothing graphic included but describes the decline toward suicide which may be triggering for some)
The Suicidal Trance – Alliance of Hope by Richard Heckler http://www.allianceofhope.org/…/richard-heckler-on-the-suic…. You can get an e-book of Waking Up, Alive the book which this excerpt was taken from on their FB page.
3. Suicide.org “Suicide is NOT a Selfish Act – It is an Act of Desperation by Someone in Intense Pain” http://www.suicide.org/suicide-is-not-a-selfish-act.html
4. Speaking of Suicide – 10 Things Not to Say to a Suicidal Person http://www.speakingofsuicide.com/2015/03/03/what-not-to-say/
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* Always take any direct threat of suicide or a suicidal content comment seriously. *
IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS SUICIDAL – CONTACT THE APPROPRIATE LINKS IMMEDIATELY
CANADA – http://suicideprevention.ca/thinking-…/find-a-crisis-centre/ – select province/territory
U.S. – NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE 1-800-273-8255 (www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org)
WORLDWIDE – http://www.befrienders.org – enter country in search box at top of page
ONLINE SUPPORT: http://www.unsuicide.wikispaces.com/Online+Suicide+Help

Learn to minimize your fear and to embrace disappointment as cheerfully and positively as possible. Count on people to fail you. Plan on people never coming through. You are going to have to fight your way through all on your own. One thing you can count on is people not showing up when you need them. Don’t look at people’s unreliability pessimistically, just vow to never be like them yourself. If you build people’s failures into your success strategy, you will not be caught off guard by surprises. And, when and if someone ever comes through, you can rejoice in the rare blessing of that event! Be continually surprised by people, rather than being continually let down.

— Bryant McGill

Some people cannot love you the way you want to be loved because they are emotionally and spiritually frozen. They recoil from or avoid affection. You will never meet a deep penetrating gaze from their shallow eyes; only a surface glance. They will touch your hand with their hand, but never with their heart. They will serve your body but not your soul. They can only connect with you through utility, but never passion. If you need cupcakes or a jar opened, they are perfect; if you need compassion or wisdom, you are all alone. They are only a person as society made them, not as nature intended them. They live life so perfectly but know nothing of life at all. They did everything they were told to be a good person but are hardly a person at all. They are empty. They are dead inside. They will break your heart if you let them. They are usually very judgmental. They see themselves as nice but are often mean and cold. They feel themselves superior. They think everything they do is exactly the way it is supposed to be done. They are repeaters. They lack original thought. If you challenge their slumber with awakened thoughts, they will panic and flee. They will make you feel crazy because they only believe what the masses believe. They are the embodiment of the masses because they have not become their own individual person. Individuation is an attainment of spiritual maturity — frighteningly seldom attained in today’s world. You cannot change these people. They are trapped inside of themselves; stunted. You will waste your whole life waiting for them to wake-up to the treasure of what you have to offer. You cannot snap them out of their sleep. Often, only a tragic event will possibly awaken them. Sometimes they awaken during a painful life transition. Some awaken on their deathbeds. Some sadly never awaken to their deeper potential for self-knowledge, intimacy, expressions of feeling and knowing love. Maybe you know someone like this. Or, maybe it’s you. Maybe you’re dead inside and don’t even know it.

Depression is a form of a disability

I know we don’t normally think of depression as a disability but it is.   It is an sickness that effects someone’s life;  sometimes even the will to live.. I think about this;   about disability and depression, it makes sense to me looking at it as a difference but a disability. I have been sad and feeling like I couldn’t be much because of my disability;  the only thing I can do without any help is write with a special keyboard and thinking about any job there is not a lot of jobs that just write,  but I never been so down on myself to where I couldn’t think that something good might come one day,  when you when you are depressed you can’t get out of the sadness.  Depression is more than just feeling sad it is the feeling of sadness and you cannot get out of this is a disability.   Here is some more information about depression and what to look for.

”Depression; Research has consistently shown a strong link between suicide and depression, with 90% of the people who die by suicide having an existing mental illness or substance abuse problem at the time of their death.

What is Depression?

More than just temporary blue mood, the despondency of depression is unrelenting and overwhelming. Some people describe it as “living in a black hole” or having a feeling of impending doom. They can’t escape their unhappiness and despair. However, some people with depression don’t feel depressed at all. Rather than sad, they feel lifeless and empty. In this apathetic state, they are unable to experience pleasure. Even when participating in activities they used to enjoy, they feel as if they’re just “going through the motions.” Depression is often linked with anxiety (link).

Specific symptoms must include five of the following:

Problems with eating
Problems with sleeping
Lack of interest in things you used to enjoy
Increased irritability
Feeling very slowed down while at the same time feeling restless or agitated
Feeling very tired or fatigued
Feeling of worthlessness or major guilt
Not being able to concentrate very well, can’t make decisions
Recurrent thoughts of death
Feeling sad or depressed for most of the day for at least two weeks
Facts and Statistics about Depression

1 in 10 American adults—or approximately 21 million people―suffer from a depressive illness each year.

Rates of depression in women are twice as high as they are in men. This is due to hormonal factors. When it comes to symptoms, women are more likely than men to experience pronounced feelings of guilt, sleep excessively, overeat, and gain weight. Women are also more likely to suffer from seasonal affective disorder.

Causes of Depression

Early life experiences, life events, genetic predisposition, hormonal changes, lifestyle factors, and certain personality traits all play a part in causing depression. Something that causes depression in one person may have no effect on another.

What helps Depression?   Psychotherapy or talk therapy
Antidepressant medication
Taking a daily vitamin and eating well
Exercising on a regular basis.”

”Risk Factors of Suicide

There are a variety of risk factors that increase a person’s risk of suicidal thoughts or behavior. Recent research has shown that most suicides are the result of an combination of biological, psychological, socio-cultural and family factors.

Youth or adults who experience the following are at a greater risk for suicide and depression:

  • Feelings of hopelessness or rejection
  • Break up of a romantic relationship OR other major loss such as the loss of income, job, home, self-esteem, social network, etc.
  • Family history of suicide, depression, violence, and/or instability
  • History of trauma or abuse
  • Current diagnosis or past diagnosis of an eating disorder
  • Mental health disorders, particularly mood disorders such as depression and bipolar disorder, anxiety disorders, schizophrenia and certain personality disorder diagnoses
  • Disruption of routine as caused by changes in relationships, divorce, moving to a new location, or a new job
  • Death of close friend or family member, especially from suicide
  • Clusters of suicide in a fairly short period of time–these can have a “contagion” influence
  • Problems at school, at work or with the law
  • Fear of authority, peers or group/gang members
  • History of impulsiveness, lack of fear, or aggressive tendencies
  • Stress due to new situations like a new school, new job, new home or new location
  • Chronic illness or pain
  • Sense of isolation or feeling different from other people
  • Living with stigmas associated with help-seeking behavior
  • Facing barriers to effective and affordable care for mental health issues/substance abuse
  • Alcohol or substance abuse
  • Concerns about sexual identity
  • Having access to lethal means

If someone you know experiences one or more of these risk factors, encourage them to speak with a professional (link to mental health resource) to help them cope.  The list of Suicide Warning Signs may help you identify someone who is struggling with suicidal thoughts, and the How To Help page gives you tips on what you can do.”

One of the ways to love yourself is to make an effort to find good information for yourself. Whether it is love, finances, goal reaching or overcoming our personal struggles — good advice can save us untold pain and suffering. One of the biggest problems people have in life is seldom getting any really good advice from qualified people. Too often, even as children, we receive poor advice for living life, or even none at all. We are also not taught how to pick good mentors. As powerful as a mentor or role model can be, they can be equally destructive if they are misinformed. The lesson here is to learn how to pick and choose your advice from people who have demonstrated they know how to make their type of advice actually work in the real world. If you want better relationships — take advice from those who have good relationships. If you want more money, take financial advice from those who have been successful financially and who also share your values. If you want to be healthy, then learn from those who have been able to cultivate and maintain good health in their own lives. If someone has failed over and over, of course, you can listen and learn from their lessons, but they only have half of the story. The best lessons in success come from successful people, who more often than not have both failed and succeeded. A person who has both failed and succeeded likely has the whole story and can help you with the steps to move forward. You can listen and learn from everyone, but just as there are different levels of advice, there are different levels of listening. Sure, you can learn from someone who has only failed — who has fallen and messed-up, but you can learn even more from someone who has gotten back up and recovered. Find good mentors, advisors and role models for yourself and listen and learn from them. You will be amazed how your life can change with good advice on your side.
— Bryant McGill