Having being born with CP, I think having a disability is not a big deal I am still able to do everything I want to.   But there have been times when I am out with family or friends and I can’t get in places,  lucky I have amazing people who find a way to get me in!   Sometimes it’s not that easy!   The disability community have the ADA to a lot of public places they should be accessible and mostly they are.   There some places that aren’t, especially older buildings and some state buildings are not accessible nor many sidewalks;  they may have a ramp but then you find a light post really where some of who uses a wheelchair would be able to get on to the sidewalk I have seen it many times.  The ADA does help and it has given the disability community a lot; though as far as accessibility it would always more to work on.

 

Self-love is most important but sometimes it’s the hardest to do.   We all think we could be better, different but we don’t have to.   The way life is we think being different isn’t well taken by others.   But I think it’s awesome; who why would you want to be normal?  I know I don’t want to be normal.   But if someone who has a differences and because of it; they have been made fun of or out cased they would not think as I do.

“Seeking love keeps you from the awareness that you already have it — that you are it.”
— Byron Katie’’

It’s coming up on my favorite time of the year, Thanksgiving!   I like this time of year because we can give thanks each day,  we should do it every day but life is so busy that we don’t.   Every year I try to write each day what I am thankful for; it doesn’t always happen.   This year I did some though out the year;  I went to keep it going.   I am thankful for true friendships that they are not with you in a way that we can see them but you know you can talk to them each day anytime.   I always want to see friends thinking that is what is a friendship but you know what I realized that it’s so not the most important way.   But the important thing is that you know you can talk them no-matter what.

I want to talk about depression, I think I can help this sickness but I can’t!   I or my reads may know what I’m talking about; it’s not like talking just being sad or hurting it’s much more than anyone who has never been depressed could know.   It’s hard trust me I have felt like that!   Yet this topic has been on my heart for forever.   I want to help people who have depression, disability, but mostly I want to design a community where every difference; will be seen!   I don’t have depression but I get sad, lonely and annoyed that I can’t do things on my own.  So in a way I do have these times when I feel happy because something in my life but I have love around me that is what helps.  Having people who don’t think about the things that you cannot do but look at what you do and just keep your spirits up  that is what is important and love.

I have cerebral palsy, so reading this letter someone wrote thanking their CP was pretty awesome! I would do the same thing; yes my cp can be hard and annoying most of the time but I know that I would be different if I didn’t have a disability.   Yes I have to work harder than most, I need help with everything.  I know I can’t get a normal job that annoyed me, its more because I could lose the help I need daily,  I have work harder at something simple as getting people to see me without my cp.  But am I happy with what I have who I am and all those quotations; yes I am!

https://themighty.com/2017/07/open-letter-to-my-cerebral-palsy/

It is disability/cancer awareness month, both of these issues I hold close to my heart.   First because I have a disability and being different is what makes me; me. I have known a few people who had been through cancer and are still with me.   I believe that all the sickness mental illness, even if you are lonely; everyone has some kind of difference disability.  We all need to have someone else in our world.   I know I talk about everyone having a disability a lot, but I think if others could understand that having a disability is not a big deal.   I love that we have an awareness month I am not saying I don’t I just think it should be more often!

Having a physical disability can be hard sometimes but you can explain to people how to help you or you know what works for you.  A disability that can be seen you are able to teach others and also bring awareness to it.  But a mental illness is not that easy to explain.  Here is a reason why I think it’s harder to tell others about mental if you have depression or some kind of mental illness;  I think people think it’s all in someone’s head that you have depression but as I read more about mental health is not just in their hands.   Sometimes it is something that they can’t control or even something from their past that has left hurt that they don’t think they feel they can let go of.  Or maybe that is just a disability.   This article about someone who is sacred to tell her story just because others don’t see that having a mental illness is a disability.  https://themighty.com/2017/05/scared-my-mental-illness-makes-me-hard-to-love/.
This is one reason I want to help people who feel like they can’t talk about mental health.

“Know thyself. Accept thyself. Love thyself. No matter what you have done, where you have been, know, accept, and love who you are.”
— Iyanla Vanzant. Do you accept,  love yourself,  do you know yourself?   Life can be hard even if you have everything going right.   Sometimes we don’t like who we are just because life wants us to think that if we have a difference it’s not ok but guess we all have some kind of difference so it should not be a big deal.   But there are people who are hurting because the public makes us feel that different is not good but it is.   Love who you are.

 

This is an article about happiness that I think sometimes being happy is not always always easy as we think.  Life gets busy with family , and work.  We can forget our happiness and just say we’re happy to have others worry about us.    When we should be first; but we get so worried about making others happy and jobs and things that we have to do  . Here are some things you can do to help yourself keep in a good place.

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/mindfulness/2017/09/three-simple-ways-to-sustainable-happiness/?utm_source=Psych+Central+Weekly+Newsletter&utm_campaign=ded4e61208-GEN_EMAIL_CAMPAIGN&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_c648d0eafd-ded4e61208-30257077.