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Dealing With Depression

Unhappiness, suddenly finding yourself in tears, feeling not able to do anything. You need to spend energy also low energy… if you have some of these symptoms you might be depressed.

Psychologist Seliha Dolaşır, gives some advices against depression which reduces one’s quality of life and expectations. According to her advises it would be possible to get rid of this inconvenient mood with activities during the day.

Us Institute of Psychiatry in Clinical Psychologist Seliyh gave the following information about the symptoms and cope roads of depression: “Depression is a perpetual unhappiness and also it is a mood disorder that causes loosing curiosity.

Depression can lead to various of emotional and physical problems by one’s way of feeling, thinking and acting. It is not a sign of weakness and depression doesn’t let you go simply it may require mid-long term treatment.

SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION

• Sadness, burst out crying, feelings of emptiness or hopelessness.

• Even in small matters bursts of anger, much frustration or sensitivity.

• The loss of interest or pleasure in normal activities like hobbies or sports.

• sleeping disorders such as sleeping little or sleeping too much.

• Even if for small business lack of energy.

• Changes in appetite; often poor appetite and weight loss, but contrary increased appetite and weight gain in some individuals.

• Anxiety, agitation or restlessness.

• Slow thinking, speaking or body movements.

• Feelings of worthlessness or guilt.

• Blame yourself for the mistakes that are not your responsibility or focus for past.

• Thinking, lack of concentration, wrong decisions and have trouble remembering daily things.

• Thoughts and attempts of suicide.

• Unexplained back pain or headaches, some physical problems.

TO WARD OFF DEPRESSION

1. Spend more time with your family and dearest friends.

2. Express and give importance to your own feelings and needs, as much as other’s you attend.

3. Do not forget the depression cycle! You can be mostly sleepy and feeling not willing to do any activities. If you sit at home and feed symptoms, you can increase the level of depression. ; In this case you should move more, even if you don’t like much!

4. Don’t look and focus past.

5. Increase the positive feeling expressions in your speeches bur also don’t forget to say negative feelings and thoughts in the right time and proper dosage.

6. In the healing process, your feelings can change time to time, ıt could be in positive-negative directions, take it easy!

7. It is important to spend time with family members, not only in home, also making some outside activities together.

8. Don’t forget those two have same effects; making regular open air walks and antidepressant pills.

9. You should reduce the time you spent in bed, take some responsibilities in order to increase your moving capacity.

10. Be sure to take advantage of more daylight. Try to run yourself to get up early to go to bed early in.

this is important, ”Can’t say it enough…Many people think that a suicide attempt is a selfish move because the person just does not care about the people left behind. I can tell you that when a person gets to that point, they truly believe that their loved ones will be much better off with them gone.This is mental illness not selfishness. TRUTH: Depression is a terrible disease and seems relentless. A lot of us have been close to that edge, or dealt with family members in a crisis, and some have lost friends and loved ones. Let’s look out for each other and stop sweeping mental illness under the rug. May I ask my family and friends wherever you might be, to kindly copy and paste this status for one hour to give a moment of support to all those who have family problems, health struggles, job issues, worries of any kind and just need to know that someone cares. Do it for all of us, for nobody is immune. I did it for my step son. Hope to see this on the walls of all my family and friends just for moral support. I know some will!!! You have to copy and paste this one, no sharing. To copy simply hold your finger on the text and the copy option will appear. Click on it. Then click on your status and paste will appear. Thank you 💚💛❤”’

How many times do we have to tell you that we are not “wheelchair-bound”? I know you see the letters, the comments on articles, and Facebook groups whose sole purpose is to help you understand.

Yet over and over again the media insists on using the most dramatic, ableist, and sensational terms when referring to people who happened to have a disability.

“Meet the woman helping wheelchair-bound people dance”:

For TODAY, NBC’s Morgan Radford reports on a woman who wants to help make life a little better for people who are wheelchair bound by giving them the chance to dance.” http://www.today.com/video/meet-the-woman-helping-wheelchair-bound-people-dance-648120899918

‘BEYond excited!’ Wheelchair-bound model with muscular dystrophy stars in Beyonce’s new merchandise campaign
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3497703/BEYond-excited-Beyonce-taps-wheelchair-bound-model-muscular-dystrophy-pose-new-merchandise-campaign.html

I am sure it helps you sell ad space, as people love a good victim-overcomes-tragedy story, or how an “Inspiration Porn” feature helps make able bodied folks realize just how lucky they are, but this type of angle is offensive and is defeating all the efforts for normalization, integration, and anti-stigmatism we are all working to achieve.  We honestly do not want, nor do we need, the sensationalism.  We just need equal rights, job opportunities, friendship, love, and access.

So, please, stop it.

We use wheelchairs for mobility.  We are not bound or “confined” to or by them. That terminology is antiquated, and does not reflect how we care to be perceived. It does not even meet the professional standards provided in the National Center on Disability and Journalism Style Guide. It is also clearly an attempt to overdramatize, stigmatize, and marginalize who we are as people (even while you are purportedly trying to feature us positively.) Stephen Feldman helps to put this in perspective: “It’s social darwinism. Wheelchair-bound = less than, less deserving, to put it mildly. “Wheelchair-bound” positively drips with pity. It keeps us in our place — bound to our wheelchairs.”

And, while we’re at it, we are also not “victims” of autism, cerebral palsy or any of our disabilities.

In case it is still not clearly understood, comprehended, or you just need a more visual clarification of what it is that we’re trying to communicate, here’s a picture to help illustrate the difference.

Here is someone who is clearly BOUND to the wheelchair.

“A Paralyzed Life” Image of Rachelle Friedman by Ira Goldstein

Here is someone who USES a wheelchair.

Model Wendy Crawford is the founder of Mobilewoman.org

So, to the Today Show, and all other media outlets who want to do a positive story about a person who is wheelchair dancing with the fabulous, integrated dance troupe Infinite Flow, doing something noble and exceptional (and no, getting married and getting asked to the prom is not a remarkable accomplishment, so you can also stop patronizing us with these types of stories), creating a remarkable new enterprise, or simply winning the Nobel prize, please remember to be BOUND by what is the morally and factually correct way to describe an entire group of individuals who are trying to overcome pity, fear, and discrimination.

Continuing to use these type of words and descriptions are not helping.

– See more at: http://pushliving.com/dear-media-please-stop-saying-we-are-bound-to-wheelchairs/#sthash.nO0QmiGT.dpuf