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If we approach the hardships in our life with a great attitude and vulnerability to allow others around us inside our lives to help us in our times of need. Having friends to support you can help the way we handle ourselves through these challenges and can make a difference during those times. We all need help when times get hard. It's not what I went to school for, but I love helping others and inspiring people through my words. Thank you for supporting me. ♥

Situations seem to happen to people, but in reality, they unfold from deeper karmic causes. The universe unfolds to itself, bringing to bear any cause that needs to be included. Don’t take this process personally. The working out of cause and effect is eternal. You are part of this rising and falling that never ends, and only by riding the wave can you ensure that the waves don’t drown you. The ego takes everything personally, leaving no room for higher guidance or purpose. If you can, realize that a cosmic plan is unfolding and appreciate the incredibly woven tapestry for what it is, a design of unparalleled marvel. — Deepak Chopra

There really is no way to know if someone loves you… all you can do is trust your heart and follow your soul and love freely… you can’t make anyone love you but you can give them a reason to like you and to respect you, so just love them anyway… and always love because you wanna, not because you expect anything in return. ~ Karen Kostyla

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We are all here for
the same purpose,
All on the same
journey of discovery,
each with our own path.

Walk lightly on this
Earth with Love.
Be the radiant Being
You are.
~ Julie Parker

 

A Few Quotes of Kindness:

Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. ~Mark Twain
No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. ~Aesop
Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end. ~Scott Adams
Kind words and actions can seem so small, but their effects are truly endless ~ Author Unknown

The purpose of this message is not to provide you with a belief system. You were created, and you do exist. Rest your mind for a moment in the peace of knowing you were created, and you do exist. Do not quarrel or restlessly seek for more knowledge, until you have given proper honor to what you already know. You exist. No matter the source of our creation let us give honor to that source. Pause your opinions, debating and absolute knowing for long enough to conceive gratitude. Once you conceive the thought of gratitude, hold it safely in your mind and keep the gratitude thought alive. Allow the thought of gratitude which is in your mind, to submerge into a feeling in your heart. Once you feel the warmth of genuine gratitude glowing in your heart, allow it to grow within you. You are alive in the world just like that thought. Do not let the gratitude thought fade away. Gratitude is where self-love begins!

— Bryant McGill

RECIPE FOR LOVE…

8 cups of unconditional LOVE.
4 cups of AFFECTION, ATTENTION, and APPRECIATION.
8 pounds of HUGS and KISSES.
5 tablespoons of LAUGHTER and SWEET SMILES.
8 ounces of FORGIVENESS.
3 bags of COMMUNICATION.
Gently stir in QUALITY TIME and SILLINESS.
Sprinkle with extra CARE and TENDERNESS.
Add plenty of PATIENCE..
Bake for 18 hours and enjoy immediately.

~ by Loann

What is your secret ingredient for LOVE?

Happy Valentine’s Day

I have time to do this tonight, before my weekend and up coming days get crazy with a new puppy,  things could be a little different for a while.   But I’m so excited to have a puppy!   I pick him up on Sunday,  what a gift for Valentine’s Day!  Valentine’s Day is a day to show the people who you hold close just how much they mean to you!  If only we could do that everyday and not feel weird about it.   I love others a little too much, loving on someone who needs it or you just want them to know to know that they mean so much to you.   How do you do it? How much can you love someone without making them feel like you are weird?   I ask myself that question all the time,  because I just love so much that sometimes I want to do so much for someone to show them how much they mean to me,  forgetting that just saying that they are loved can mean so much just by itself.  So if you are like me,  just remember you can say I love you everyday you can just say that and they will know that they mean a lot to you!  Remember having love in your life does not just mean your boyfriend or girlfriend its for everyone thinks you hold close.  

“We are all damaged. We have all been hurt. We have all had to learn painful lessons. We are all recovering from some mistake, loss, betrayal, abuse, injustice or misfortune. All of life is a process of recovery that never ends. We each must find ways to accept and move through the pain and to pick ourselves back up. For each pang of grief, depression, doubt or despair there is an inverse toward renewal coming to you in time. Each tragedy is an announcement that some good will indeed come in time. Be patient with yourself.”
— Bryant McGill

Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.”
— Karl Marx

“Be an example… Show kindness to unkind people. Forgive people who don’t deserve it. Love unconditionally. Your actions always reflect who you are.”

“Real love is opening your heart to the unlovable. Real gratitude is giving thanks when things aren’t perfect. Real generosity is sharing when you have very little. Real courage makes the ‘impossible’ — possible, with real faith.”

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”- Martin Luther King Jr.

Self-doubts, feeling unworthy, rejection, and past injuries can churn in us with a low-boil of anxiety. Who would you be without your self-judgments and the baggage of your past mistakes in tow with you at all times? Learning your lesson from a mistake is healthy, but living forever in the emotions of your past mistakes is toxic and debilitating. The problem with traumatic, high-stress experiences is that they often create negative beliefs about oneself such as being powerless, unlovable, undeserving, unsafe and that things are unchangeable. Sometimes we resist letting go because we just can’t see a way to move forward — believing things can never change for someone as unworthy as us. Be careful not to identify yourself with your past — you have a past, but it is not who you are today.

— Bryant McGill

February

Its coming up on one of my favorite holidays is Valentine’s Day and its not because I have a boyfriend or have been in love. I love Valentine’s Day because it’s a day to tell the people in your life how much you love them, its not just for people who are in love. I love the people who help my life that much more special. Maybe Valentine’s Day is me just for  boyfriends and girlfriends, but for me it’s means so much more; I love the people who have been there for me. Maybe more than I should, but that is who I am.  Love is everything. If you could have one word to describe who you are what would would it be; mind would be love!   I think we all have something that means more to us than anything else,  for me it’s doing things for others LOVING others!   !  So you get a big love message from me you now understand why.

No one wants to suffer. No one wants to be lonely. No one wants to live in fear. No one wants to lose everything. No one wants their heart ripped to shreds. No one want to be sick. And, no one wants to die. But these things happen in life. So the least we can do is be there for others, as we would like others to be there for us. — Bryant McGill

To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to. -Gibran

Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass… It’s about learning to dance in the rain. — Vivian Greene

Pure love has no conditions or boundaries. Love does not restrain itself or hold back. Love gives and it doesn’t ask for anything in return. Love is a continuous flow without any limits. And all of this is inside you. — Rhonda Byrne

We all have hard times, the first of this year I was not very happy, sometimes I can get into a place where even though I have so much support and love I still get depressed, in that mind set it’s so easy to think that I am not good enough or I can’t do anything with my life, but really that is not true! I just needed to step out of that way of thinking and I soon saw what I am already doing. I am raining an organization called Ms. Wheelchair Colorado it is such a great organization to be a part of. I also write to support others who are going through a hard time, and I work with special needs high school students.  Everything that I do how could I feel depressed you may ask; having a disability where you always need to have with of your physical needs,can get hard sometimes. When you get to age where you should have a job and be able to take care of yourself, but when it comes down to it for me,  I can’t do it without help. Most of the time I am very happy and I don’t let what I can’t do get to me;  but the last few weeks I have been down and kind of wishing I had a normal job and that I could live without needing help for everything;  but I do.  I know there are so many things I can do.   I need to focus on what I can do,  but when you are depressed it can be hard to see the things you can do.   May be you are like me,  you need someone to be there to talk to when you’re feeling down.   Having a great friendship can just give you what you need to get back to yourself again.  

Be open to others; give people a chance. Be open to yourself; give yourself a chance. — Bryant McGill

As an organism and being, your total intelligence is profoundly greater than what you can observe of yourself. Your education, intelligence, memory, vocabulary and obvious mental faculty is just the mere surface of your intelligence. There is a vast kingdom of understanding within you that you cannot consciously grasp. Each cell within you is its own kingdom of genius with a powerful will for life. You are one masterful orchestration; a system of great intuition, unfamiliar senses and ancient instincts that are constantly transmitting survival insight in your moments of challenge. Don’t think you can outsmart or intellectually instruct the ocean of ancient wisdom within you. Intellectuality is often loud, clumsy, forceful and arrogant. Surrender and meditative calm will allow your total intelligence to come forward and instruct you with powerful patterns for living. Your will for life is speaking to you through every layer and level of your being’s stratum; from the conscious to the unconscious. The way you open yourself to the ocean of wisdom within you is through humility, calm, and quietness. The way you marshal the vast kingdom of survival strength is through total humility and listening. Open yourself to your unfamiliar instincts that are quietly hidden below the noise and chatter of common thought. Trust yourself. Honor yourself. Accept yourself. There are legions of unknown forces within you awaiting your cooperation. The way you commune with your total force of intelligence is through surrender. In the quietness of your still mind, you will hear the whispers of a vast longing for life guiding you each step on your journey. You are safe. You are strong. You are brilliant. You are walking through life with total protection — if you listen and trust yourself.

— Bryant McGill

Everyone says love hurts, but that isn’t true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again.
— Author Unknown

 

“The way to happiness: Keep your heart free from hate, your mind from worry. Live simply, expect little, give much. Scatter sunshine, forget self, think of others.”

— Norman Vincent Peale

We often think of oppression in terms of tyrants, but it most often comes from the institutions, philosophies, and people closest to us. Most oppression is near and dear. Next time your spouse or partner abusively criticizes you, or says you are worthless, not good enough, stupid or inadequate — tell them that if it is true, to consider that those alleged deficiencies could be what prevented you from getting a better mate. They say they can’t stand your behaviour, but really, they can’t stand themselves. People like this often criticize you from the position of being the “wiser” or “stronger” person, who they claim are only trying to “help” you. If they really were strong they wouldn’t yell, they would reassure. If they were really strong they wouldn’t put you down, they would lift you up. Maybe you’re the one who is really strong. Maybe they just want to hold you back. Maybe it’s time to stand-up for yourself!
— Bryant McGill

Happy International Day of Acceptance. we all have differences not if we can see them or not. Accepting everyone is necessary. I love that there is a day of acceptance!

 

“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.”— Mother Teresa

We have always heard that we need to love others as we love our self’s, although when you don’t love yourself it can be hard to give out love.  These days people are so much in the way someone looks,  acts, that we are used to hearing, you are not good enough,  you are different.   Having those words can sunk into your heart and you can start to think that you will fit in, you are not good enough,  you start not loving yourself.   Well guess what!   I think we are different we all have some kind of disability, what is normal anyway?

“The problems of the world seem so enormous that sometimes we think “what’s the point? Little ole me can’t make a difference.” The thing is, if we all were to work at changing ourselves, we are contributing to the well-being of the world. Change yourself, love yourself, practice more compassion and kindness and you create a ripple effect. It makes your relationships at home, at work, in your social settings better and that tiny ripple keeps on going. We don’t realize the impact we have on each other and thus the world and society as a whole. Each of us is needed. Each of us makes a difference.” -Marcel Lawrence

Primal doubts are the worst; I’m ugly, I’m fat, I’m not smart or good enough. The difficult thing is that no matter how inaccurate — primal doubts can seem very real — and what seems real is real in a psychosomatic sense. And, the world can indeed judge us very harshly, and those judgments can truly impact our lives in ways that are catastrophic to our self-image if we are not deeply secure in ourselves. But no matter how the world judges us, it’s ultimately our inner demons that we contend with day-to-day; a fight no one can win for us, but ourselves. The battle takes place in the mind and is fought with our inherited and modeled skills, and our inner-voice.

— Bryant McGill

 

“Never stop sharing your love with people; that’s why you were put on Earth.”
— Bryant McGill

Be grateful for what you have, and you’ll end up having more.

Focus on what you don’t have, and you’ll never have enough.

Good Morning


“If the only resolution you make this year is to practice more love and kindness toward yourself, this will be enough to change all areas of your life for the positive.”

We can overwhelm ourselves with a bunch of goals and really if we just did this one thing on a regular basis…it would change everything. heart emoticon Namaste#lifecoach #Inspiration #WUVIP

When Someone You Know Has Cancer Article date: December 22, 2015 By Stacy Simon

As medical knowledge advances, more and more people are surviving cancer. With more than 14 million survivors and counting, chances are you know someone who’s been told they have some type of cancer.

Studies have found that cancer survivors with strong emotional support tend to better adjust to the changes cancer brings to their lives, have a more positive outlook, and often report a better quality of life. Often, however, family, friends, and co-workers of cancer patients want to help, but just don’t know what to do. If someone you know has been diagnosed with cancer or another serious illness, you may be wondering how to help or what to say.

Here are some ideas about where to start:

Keep in touch.

  • Write, text, email, or call often, and keep it short.
  • Call at times that work best for your friend.
  • When your friend calls or texts you, answer right away.

Visit.

  • Call before you visit, and be understanding if your friend can’t see you at that time.
  • Keep the visit short, and be understanding if the family decides it’s time to end the visit. Bring a movie to watch together, a snack to share, a book to read while your friend naps, or a newspaper to help your friend catch up on current events.
  • Don’t be afraid to touch, hug, or shake hands with your friend.

Know what to say (and not to say).

  • Gear the conversation to subjects that you know your friend likes to talk about.
  • Be sensitive to your friend’s attention span, and understand that they may be too tired to participate actively.
  • Help your friend participate in the conversation by asking questions: Ask for their advice, their opinions, and how they’re feeling.
  • Give honest compliments, such as “You look rested today.”
  • Allow your friend to be negative, silent, or withdrawn, if that is how they’re feeling.
  • Don’t urge your friend to be strong or fight the cancer if they don’t feel up to it.
  • Don’t leave out your friend when talking to others in the room, or assume they can’t hear you even if they appear to be asleep.
  • Don’t offer medical advice or your opinion on things like diet, vitamins, and herbal therapies.

Offer to run errands.

  • Organize family, friends, neighbors, and co-workers to help complete regularly scheduled tasks.
  • Helpful tasks may include making meals, cleaning the house, caring for the lawn and garden, baby-sitting, pet sitting, grocery shopping, picking up prescriptions, and driving family and friends to and from the airport.
  • Do urgent errands right away.

Remember caregivers.

Your friend isn’t the only one who may need help coping with cancer; the person (or people) taking care of them could also use your support. Caregivers often neglect their own needs because they are so busy taking care of their loved one. Helping your friend’s caregiver is another way to show you care.

  • Offer to stay with your friend while the caregiver takes a break. It’s important for caregivers to get some time to themselves.
  • Help out the caregiver with errands, too. Ask which tasks would be most helpful – and follow through.

Reviewed by: Members of the ACS Medical Content Staff

ACS News Center stories are provided as a source of cancer-related news and are not intended to be used as press releases. For reprint requests, please contact permissionrequest@cancer.org.

(http://www.cancer.org/cancer/news/features/when-a-friend-has-cancer?utm_campaign=jan_2016&utm_source=mb_facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_content=jan8)

No matter how your heart is grieving,
if you keep on believing, the dreams that you wish will come true.
– Unknown