Cancer is a horrible, horrible illness. Finding out someone you love very much can be very scary and upsetting. You will feel helpless as your loved one battles the biggest fight of their life, but there are some small and simple steps you can take to make them feel a little better.
1. Make them a personal support page.
For example, when my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer, I made her a support page on Facebook that over 700 people joined. From friends to family to strangers, the amount of love, prayers, support, and encouraging words she received was amazing. She enjoyed seeing how many people loved her and were cheering her on. I truly believe it gave her a little bit of extra strength.
2. Show them the meaning of hope.
Hope is never giving up. Hope is continuing to fight no matter how much it hurts. Hope is some times the only thing left to hold on to. Show them what hope is, show them that you will never give up on hope and they shouldn’t either.
If they need a shoulder to cry on, lend them yours. If they need an ear that will listen to them, let them talk for hours. Don’t tell them you understand what they’re going through, because the truth is, you don’t. Just be there for them.
4. Keep things normal.
Although things aren’t normal, and cancer just plain old sucks, don’t pity them or show them that you feel sorry for them. Offer them help, but never force it upon them. If they decline your help, accept it. They don’t want to be treated differently and I can promise you if they do need your help, they will ask for it or say yes the first time you offer.
5. Support their decisions, even if you do not agree with them.
Whether it be a decision about their treatment or anything else, respect that decision of theirs. After all it is their life and their body, they know and feel what is best for themselves.
6. Educate yourself on the type of cancer they have been diagnosed with.
Do some research, know some information. It will give you a slight idea of what they are dealing with and the more you know, the easier it will be for them to explain certain “cancer things: to you.
7. Love them.
Plain and simple. Give them all the love you have in your heart. Hug them a little tighter, hold them a little longer. Let them know how loved and supported they are.